September 16, 2014
"You know what else it costs to write about and talk about consent? I’m going to be super real with y’all. It has cost me the vast majority of my relationships with men. Not all at once, but eventually, over time, one by one. It was one sexist joke too many, it was one boundary-crossing-creep-defender over the line. It was the constant microaggressions or the combination of being privileged and defensive about it and unable or unwilling to do any better. Most grew weary of arguing about feminist issues, or about the fact that I wouldn’t let them just win those arguments, even though they usually had no idea what they were talking about. They couldn’t deal with the fact that I won’t allow anyone to say disparaging shit to and about me and mine. Or they won’t or can’t do better after I explain how to do better many many times and finally I have to peace out on them for my own safety. I have at present a tiny handful of guy friends. One I get into arguments with nearly every time we talk. I fear that relationship may go the way of most of my past relationships with subtly sexist men—away, that is to say. Which is really too fucking bad. Because the truth is, I don’t hate men—I hate male privilege. I really like men, shit, I love them actually, some of them. I miss having men friends, but not enough to let the mild misogyny slide. I have got to take care of me and mine. That’s where we clash, because I refuse to just smooth things over, to just let things go. They’re accustomed to deference and I’ve taught myself to drop that habit as best I can."

Guest Post: On the costs of talking about consent - Consent Culture (via ceeainthereforthat)

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September 3, 2014

thepeoplesrecord:

Columbia student will carry her mattress until her rapist exits school
September 2, 2014

While most students at Columbia University will spend the first day of classes carrying backpacks and books, Emma Sulkowicz will start her semester on Tuesday with a far heavier burden. The senior plans on carrying an extra-long, twin-size mattress across the quad and through each New York City building – to every class, every day – until the man she says raped her moves off campus.

“I was raped in my own bed,” Sulkowicz told me the other day, as she was gearing up to head back to school in this, the year American colleges are finally, supposedly, ready to do something about sexual assault. “I could have taken my pillow, but I want people to see how it weighs down a person to be ignored by the school administration and harassed by police.”

Sulkowicz is one of three women who made complaints to Columbia against the same fellow senior, who was found “not responsible” in all three cases. She alsofiled a police report, but Sulkowicz was treated abysmally – by the cops, and by a Columbia disciplinary panel so uneducated about the scourge of campus violence that one panelist asked how it was possible to be anally raped without lubrication.

So Sulkowicz joined a federal complaint in April over Columbia’s mishandling of sexual misconduct cases, and she will will hoist that mattress on her shoulders as part savvy activism, part performance art. “The administration can end the piece, by expelling him,” she says, “or he can, by leaving campus.”

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As painful as I know the constant reminder of attending school with her rapist must be, I’m glad she won’t be the only one forced to remember. I hope the rapist drops out immediately…or better yet, I hope he faces the justice he deserves. 

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August 29, 2014

thentheysaidburnher replied to your post: One of my guy friends keeps joking abo…

"Can you not talk about being predatory against vulnerable young women, it makes me very uncomfortable as a women who is against rape in all forms." And then just broken record that shit until he admits to being rapist garbage.

P E R F E C T.

August 28, 2014

One of my guy friends keeps joking about hitting on teenage girls and I just cannot handle it anymore. 

I don’t have the words to deal with him right now so I’m just going to ignore it for the time being. If any of you have any tips, feel free to share. 

August 16, 2014

micdotcom:

Ferguson residents defend a store from looting 

August 13, 2014
rezondadawn:

Hey I’d like all my followers to check out this link an sign this petition.
If we can tweet an post about racism an police brutality then we sign an actually use our voices to usher in change an reform .
All my black brothers & sisters I urge you to share this !
It could be your brother , uncle , nephew , husband or friend .
https://www.change.org/petitions/president-barack-obama-please-enact-new-federal-laws-to-protect-citizens-from-police-violence-and-misconduct

rezondadawn:

Hey I’d like all my followers to check out this link an sign this petition.

If we can tweet an post about racism an police brutality then we sign an actually use our voices to usher in change an reform .

All my black brothers & sisters I urge you to share this !

It could be your brother , uncle , nephew , husband or friend .

https://www.change.org/petitions/president-barack-obama-please-enact-new-federal-laws-to-protect-citizens-from-police-violence-and-misconduct

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August 13, 2014
"But, it’s just as important that young people, girls and boys and genderqueers alike, can have as many examples as possible of men and women who don’t conform to gender stereotypes. I like to think I’m doing my part for that by living as an aggressive, competitive, logical, and strong butch woman."

Why I’m Still A Butch Lesbian; Vanessa Vitiello Urquhart

August 13, 2014

snowglakes:

i want to follow more radfems, reblog this if you’re a radfem

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August 10, 2014

Anonymous said: How does radical feminism propose to abolish gender? Isn't removing the rigidity of it a step on that direction? Aren't people who identify as nb essentially doing that?

nextyearsgirl:

Being “nonbinary” still validates the existence of a binary. All it says is that the binary doesn’t apply to you, not that the binary isn’t real. Gender is a system of oppression that can only be abolished by a systematic recognition of how and why it exists and is reinforced and a rejection of the concept on a class basis, not through individualistic expressions of identity that ultimately leave the overarching system untouched.

August 9, 2014

bornpissed:

to-catch-a-raven:

bornpissed:

when people act like hitting/choking women during sex isn’t an indicator of misogyny

  • stop
  • it is
  • you need to rethink why violence against women gets you hard

but let’s be careful not to kink shame here

there is nothing wrong with CONSENSUAL hitting and choking during sex between two adults

lmao nah im gonna shame the hell outta your kinks if they’re sexualizing violence against women. i dont care if “she wanted it” or not

let’s be careful never to let those people off the hook.

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